In 2015, Australian travel blogging duo Alesha Bradford and Jarryd Salem of NOMADasaurus opened up about the struggles of being a globe-hopping social-media couple.
Although Bradford and Salem were shooting up into social media stardom through a blog and Instagram, their relationship was struggling. They openly blogged about why they needed time apart.
“Being a nomadic couple, making a decent living through social media and blogging definitely seems like the perfect life,” Salem tells CNN. And when every photo is a gorgeous landscape or an amazing adventure, it’s easy to think life is just sunshine and roses.
“But there’s a lot that goes on behind the scenes,” he adds. People should be aware that behind each beautiful Instagram photo might be hours of work, logistical issues, planning and money.
“Social media allows us to create a staged, ideal representation of our life. Followers should love every image, but take the perceived lifestyle of famous Instagrammers with a grain of salt,” says Salem.
It’s been two years since Nomadasaurus opened up about their relationship struggles. They’re still together and still on the road, but now they talk regularly about their challenges, says Salem.
“Opening up has been an overwhelmingly positive experience. People respond to honesty and can relate more to real stories rather than just perfect picture after perfect picture.”
IdleTheoryBus (Kit Whistler and J.R Switchgrass)
Kit Whistler and J.R. Switchgrass have lived in a 1976 bus named Sunshine since 2012.
“Everything we own is in the bus. Every single thing,” says Whistler. “We don’t have a storage unit anywhere.”
Their IdleTheoryBus Instagram account has taken off, reaching 141k followers. As they travel, the pair work manual labor jobs, take photos, write and create videos. Living this way allows them to balance work, leisure and idleness.
The whole social media thing came as a surprise, Whistler tells CNN.
“We never sought out a following and never thought it would be a central and pivotal tool to our life on the road.”
For the first year of travel, the pair had only flip-phones with no Internet capabilities.
“You definitely do not need social media or the Internet to live on the road,” she adds. But being connected has allowed them to make some of their dearest friends.
“Van life” comes with its own challenges.
“Sharing 80 square feet can definitely take its toll on our relationship. We fight, often, especially in winter when it’s cold and there are 12 hours of darkness,” says Whistler. “The fights are bad sometimes. I’ve locked J.R. out of the bus all night, no joke. He’s left me on the side of the road with only a backpack.”
Family dynamics are also tough.
“They tolerate our lifestyles. At first, it was bad. They thought we were throwing our lives away.”
Despite the challenges, Whistler points to many benefits. “We have found ourselves with more time to pursue our passions, instead of material possessions.” This year the couple made a dream come true by publishing their first book, Orange is Optimism.
“It was totally supported by our blog and social media.”
For anyone wanting to pursue a life on the road, Whistler suggests checking motivations. “Living in a vehicle will not solve your problems; it will only amplify them. There’s nowhere to run at night when you’re frustrated and you haven’t showered, and you’re out of propane so you eat an orange for dinner…Things can get bad.”
Still, adds Whistler, it’s worth it. “You can plan your life away and completely miss what’s right in front of you. Make sure you know yourself, your priorities, and just leap.”
NoDestinations (Chris and Danika Garlotta)
In 2014, Chris and Danika Garlotta quit their employments, sold their stuff and left San Francisco for an epic around the globe trip. The couple pair hasn’t ceased since.
Today their Instagram account, goals, has over 150k adherents. Pictures show them walking shorelines in the Maldives and watching nightfalls in Sri Lanka. They money goes through working remotely while becoming their Instagram image and site.
“I completed a great deal of voyaging alone before I met Danika,” says Chris. “I’d pick another goal, arrive, glance around and think how energizing it was, yet I didn’t have anybody to converse with about it.” Now he has Danika.
“Voyaging alone is incredible, yet when you’re there with somebody to share those minutes, it makes it increasingly extraordinary.”
Danika focuses to an especially sentimental night in a small Kyoto inn. Eateries are costly so the couple picked to visit the nearby 7-Eleven. “It was stunning, with sushi, sashimi, little dumplings. We’d get those, and furthermore bar snacks and a container of wine.” Back in the room in their nightgown, they sat with knees contacting, getting a charge out of a 7-Eleven date.
Being as one every minute of every day can be upsetting, Chris concedes. “We quibble a decent arrangement. We each have solid identities. At times we’ve quite recently got the chance to let [the fight] go.”
Danika snickers that she finds alone time by playing Candy Crush in the washroom.
“Or on the other hand I go out, get two minutes out the entryway, acknowledge I have no clue where I am, I don’t have a SIM, and I return with the pup hound eyes. Fundamentally, there’s no opportunity to get into a battle. You need to get over it,” she says.
“In case you’re not going with your closest companion, those battles may be progressively hard to get over.”
Voyaging and cooperating as a team has ruled out mysteries, says Danika. In any case, they wouldn’t do it some other way.
“I like voyaging, yet I adore being with Danika considerably more,” says Chris. “I’m simply upbeat that we’re ready to do every one of these things together.”
FindUsLost (Selena Slavenburg and Jacob Taylor)
Subsequent to experiencing passionate feelings for in Southern California seven years prior, Selena Slavenburg and Jacob Taylor of FindUsLost have wandered sun-doused areas around the globe.
“Always encountering new places and societies is compelling,” says Taylor. Having the capacity to share the voyage has been an astonishing piece of the experience. “There are unquestionably times when it very well may debilitate, yet we are continually anticipating our next trek.”
Difficulties occur, includes Slavenburg. “Amid one trek Jacob’s workstation down and out, which had the majority of our photographs and altering programming on it. We were in the Czech Republic and invested hours heading to informal Apple retailers!”
The vital thing with going as a couple is to realize your points of confinement before hand, Slavenburg proceeds. “I’m supportive of getting outside your customary range of familiarity while voyaging – however sensibly speaking. Build up forthcoming what you feel good with.”
Being sensible is critical. “Try not to set out on a voyage you aren’t happy with. You can generally alter your opinion.”
With respect to the most sentimental detect the couple has ever been, they just have one answer: Santorini, says Slavenburg. “It may be prosaism, yet we both experienced passionate feelings for when we visited.”
AdventureFaktory (Mitch Hyde and Thuymi Do)
Dubai-based Instagram couple Mitch Hyde and Thuymi Do of AdventureFaktory concur that opening up about the unavoidable out and about difficulties makes online life feel progressively certifiable.
“Travel wouldn’t be the equivalent on the off chance that you didn’t have distressing minutes,” says Australian Hyde. He indicates missing planes, being ripped off by cabs or booking the wrong transport tickets.
“Be that as it may, with Snapchat and InstaStory, our group of onlookers gets the opportunity to see these minutes as they occur. We imagine that makes us relatable. Travel isn’t constantly glad and immaculate Instagram shots. Things can turn out badly,” he includes.
Both Do and Hyde hold down all day employments while voyaging, running their site and overseeing Instagram. Hyde trusts that will change later on, with movement turning into the fundamental gig.
“We cherish each moment of our adventures. Voyaging allows us to see the street less taken, and utilizing internet based life enables us to discover detects that we’d never have found without anyone else.”
Kara Buchanan and Nate Buchanan’s vlog
YouTubers Kara Buchanan and Nate Buchanan set off a year ago with an objective of visiting 100 nations by 2019. They transfer every day video blogs en route.
In Santorini, tasting glasses of Vinsanto (a neighborhood sweet red wine) while watching the sun set over the Aegean ocean, the pair discovered genuine sentiment.
“We’re currently 16 months in, and the cash we’re making from our [YouTube] channel, in addition to related exercises, is continuing our movements. Ideally it will convey us to our objective,” says Nate.
The most difficult part for the globe-jumping couple is cooperating. “Most of our contentions originate from having distinctive innovative dreams for our recordings,” Nate tells CNN.
“Kara has an increasingly easygoing style, and I like cleaned and expert.” While it’s not constantly fun finding that center ground, he includes that it makes a special style and solid brand.
The worry of movement implies the pair do battle more, says Kara. “We have no schedules and we settle on multiple times a greater number of choices than we did at home.” Add to that the propensity to contend when eager, worn out or lost – all while out and about – and pressure is guaranteed.
“We for the most part do exclude our minor contradictions on the video blog, yet we additionally don’t attempt to make it appear as though we have the ideal life out and about,” Kara says. She indicates an occasion of inadvertently paying for the wrong case lodging in Japan.
“Despite the fact that I wouldn’t state it was a fun night, it was unquestionably vital!”
Notwithstanding the difficulties of being as one out and about, the couple accentuates they wouldn’t modify anything.
“In the event that you genuinely need to travel full-time, pick a date and begin telling individuals you’re leaving. Do it! Stop sitting tight for the ideal time,” says Kara.
AnnaEverywhere (Anna Lysakowska) and ExpertVagabond (Matt Karsten)
While many voyaging online life couples choose one shared record, Anna Lysakowska from AnnaEverywhere and Matt Karsten from ExpertVagabond keep both their sizable Instagram brands independent.
“When we met, we’d officially settled our online journals and Instagram accounts with various topics and groups of onlookers,” says Karsten.
It’s better for business, Lysakowska includes. “We chip away at a blend of undertakings, some separately, others together, contingent upon the subject and what a customer is searching for.”
As of now the American couple travel around a half year a year, sharing encounters and helping each other catch minutes for online networking. There are unquestionably sentimental minutes: in Trinidad, Cuba, they meandered cobblestone avenues fixed with pioneer design and 1950s vehicles.
“It very well may test,” Karsten includes, refering to troubles choosing what to do or where to go straightaway. Having separate web based life accounts likewise makes circumstances where both Instagrammers are endeavoring to snap their own photographs in restricted measure of time.
“Possibly there’s insufficient time for both [photos], the light is blurring, different vacationers stroll into the shot…” says Lysakowska.
At last they note that voyaging together is an incredible relationship test on account of the unlimited highs and lows. “Persistence and trade off are imperative,” says Lysakowska, encouraging others to begin with short “test’ trips before bouncing crazy and voyaging full time.
“Additionally make sure to take a break for yourselves on occasion.”
Salt in our Hair (Hannah Spelt and Nick Noordijk)
Instagrammers Hannah Spelt and Nick Noordijk of Salt in our Hair post sun-soaked scenes of skipping through fields in Holland, swinging from palm trees in Sri Lanka and relaxing by pools in Marrakech.
In Da Nang, Vietnam, the pair rode bikes at nightfall and halted at little sustenance markets. “It’s not known as a sentimental city, yet it’s our sort of sentimental,” says Spelt.
“At the point when Hannah graduated school we chose to take four months off to knapsack,” Noordijk clarifies of their begin. As of now the blog and Instagram are side gigs, however they would like to make it full time.
There are difficulties, Spelt concedes. “We’ve been burglarized by a taxi driver in the Philippines, however we didn’t share this since we didn’t video blog or have Instagram stories right then and there.” Recently, when their automaton was seized by traditions in Morocco, they shared everything with their web-based social networking devotees.
Spelt instructs individuals prodding with the thought regarding travel to think beyond practical boundaries. “Have confidence in yourself. Try not to give anybody a chance to reveal to you that you’re not going to make it. Put it all on the line, tumble down and stand up once more.”